A_390 - Sometimes certain seemingly impossible results simply require a proper understanding of the situation. For example, if your goal is to keep warm, you can do so either by burning €50 bills or by burning recycled wood. It's easy to understand that in one case, even though the end result is the same, burning bills will keep you warm but will ruin you, while in the other, you've simply found a wise way to manage resources. The same can also apply to people of the opposite sex. Be clear about what you're looking for. Are you looking for someone physically attractive because you enjoy observing beauty? Are you looking for someone who makes you feel emotionally good? Are you looking for someone who will entertain you and who you can have fun with? Are you looking for someone with specific skills and work abilities? Are you looking for someone with financial resources to share in exchange for something else? It's pretty clear that if you're looking for just one very specific thing, it will be very easy to find it, while if you're looking for everything at once, it could obviously be much more difficult to find, or at least it might not be particularly sustainable in the long run. Also know that, for example, fun, positive emotions, economic resources and other very pleasant experiences can in any case be found even if not necessarily associated with people.